Faith Over Chaos

Have you ever had someone announce their “love language” like it’s breaking news? Don’t worry, we’re not suddenly speaking French or Klingon here. It’s just a fancy way of saying: “Here’s how I like to be loved, please take notes.”

Some examples:

• Acts of service – This is when you do something for someone. My husband’s speaking my love language as basically “Dishwasher Hero.” When he cleans the whole kitchen after I’ve worked myself into the ground.
• Quality time – Translation: put down your phone and actually look at me. It’s not just about hanging out, it’s about saying, “You matter enough for me to stop scrolling TikTok.”
• Physical touch – Ranges from a sweet arm squeeze to a full-on bear hug. Or, if you’re married, maybe a kiss that doesn’t feel like you’re kissing your grandma.

You get the idea. There are more of these, but I’ll spare you the lecture — that’s a whole other blog post.

Here’s where I’m going with this: we bend over backwards to figure out our loved ones’ love languages, but have we ever stopped to ask… what’s God’s love language?

Think about it. We study our spouse, our kids, even our dog (who, let’s be honest, only speaks “snacks”). But do we sit down, crack open His Word, and actually wonder: How does God want to be loved? You don’t need me to drop hints like some heavenly game show. God already said it. And no, His love language isn’t “buy Me a latte” or “rub My feet.” Spoiler: it’s obedience, straight from His Word.

• John 14:15 – “If you love me, keep my commands.” My takeaway: don’t just say “love ya, Jesus” — show it.
• John 14:23 – “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching.” My takeaway: God’s not looking for chocolates, He’s looking for trust in action.
• 1 John 5:3 – “This is love for God: to keep his commands.” My takeaway: God’s not handing us a honey-do list; He’s inviting us into freedom.
• 2 John 1:6 – “And this is love: that we walk in obedience to his commands.” My takeaway: Walk it out, don’t just talk it out.

See the pattern? God’s love language is obedience. Not the stiff, joyless kind that feels like detention, but the kind that says: “I trust You enough to do what You say, even when I don’t totally get it.” And his commands are not burdensome, they are life-giving.

So now that we know God’s love language is obedience, here’s the real question: how do we actually show it?

Do we talk with Him daily — not just the “Lord, please let it be all green lights on the way there because I’m running late.” prayers, but the kind where we sit with His Word, listen, and let Him shape us? The kind that goes beyond chaos management and turns into relationship building.

Do we show that obedience in how we walk with others — not just quoting Jesus, but reflecting Him in the way we treat people, even that coworker who somehow manages to push every button you have before 9 a.m. Because obedience isn’t just vertical (between us and God); it’s horizontal too, spilling out into how we love, forgive, and serve the people around us.

Obedience isn’t just about checking boxes. It’s about relationship.

Here’s the challenge: if obedience is God’s love language, then how fluent are we? And more importantly, how are we practicing it — in private with Him, and in public with others? Because real obedience doesn’t just talk about Jesus, it reflects Him – even when the Wi-Fi is slow, the traffic is bad, and that coworker is still… that coworker.

Helping you find peace in the garden again—because God’s love language isn’t chaos.

This might feel harsh, but lean in: if obedience is God’s love language, let’s see how fluent we are.

1. When was the last time you obeyed God in something small — like forgiving that co-worker — even when you didn’t feel like it?
2. Do your daily conversations with God go beyond “green light prayers,” or are you building relationship?
3. How does your obedience show up in public — with coworkers, neighbors, or family — not just in private devotion?
4. If someone watched your life for a week, would they see obedience as your love language back to God?
5. What’s one area where obedience feels burdensome to you — and how might God be inviting you to see it as freedom instead?